So….How Soon Is Too Soon?
I have been asked this question by my friends and as a single woman who frequently dates I have also asked myself this question when it comes to having intimate relations with a new person. This is a hard question to answer because in my opinion there is no correct answer. I think it depends on the people, the situation and your desired outcome. If you are looking at this man as someone who you could have a possible future with than you want him to respect you which means you should probably hold off. If you have no desired outcome and want to casually date than your expectations will not be as high.
‘Think Like A Man' has proven itself to be a Box Office hit raking in $33Million in its opening week. In the movie they touch on the infamous 90 Day Rule. The 90 Day Rule basically says that a woman should make a man wait 90 days before having sex. I have done this and was extremely disappointed that I waited 3 months, got to know him and the sex was wack. I felt as if my time was wasted because realistically I wasn’t going to be in a relationship with someone who could not please me and he didn’t want to just be friends. So is waiting 90 days a smart move? On the flip side, if you give it up too quickly then you’re looked at as easy and gossiped about. This is where the double standard comes into play. A man sleeping around with several women will get a pat on his back from his boys whereas a woman enjoying her single life is gossiped about endlessly. Even more amazing is the guy who sleeps with such a woman and labels her a hoe the next day while he acted in the same manner as she did. So the question is…To Wait or Not To Wait?
Until Next Time,
Niccole