Why do people ask their partners how many people have you slept with? Will your partner tell the truth? Will your partners response change your opinion of them? Is this something you really want to know? What if she told you she has slept with 100+ men….are you now looking at the woman you have feelings for as a whore? I don’t think this question should be asked in a relationship. In my opinion the acceptable number of people for you to have slept with is the amount of people you felt comfortable sleeping with. As long as your disease free and staying faithful in the relationship how many people you have been with in your past shouldn’t matter. No one knows how many men I have been with because it’s not something I discuss.  It shouldn’t be a topic because I make whoever I am dealing with feel like he is the only one. So Ladies and Gentlemen, my question to my audience this week is: Will your partners response of asking how many people they have been with change your opinion of them? And who do you think has had more overall sexual partners, men or women?

Until Next Time,
Niccole

Picture this… You met someone a few weeks ago whom you find attractive, he has taken you out on a few dates and has invited you to his home a couple times. On this particular visit to his home, he decides to pour you a glass of wine, dim the lights and put on a movie. You are lying on his couch with your feet in his lap and he is gently rubbing your feet through a blanket. You are extremely attracted to his personality and good looks. You’re curious about what else he has to offer but your still getting to know him and don’t want to rush anything although everything inside of you is telling you to go for it. Do you make him wait to see what his intentions are, or do you give it up to satisfy your curiosity?

 So….How Soon Is Too Soon?

I have been asked this question by my friends and as a single woman who frequently dates I have also asked myself this question when it comes to having intimate relations with a new person.   This is a hard question to answer because in my opinion there is no correct answer. I think it depends on the people, the situation and your desired outcome. If you are looking at this man as someone who you could have a possible future with than you want him to respect you which means you should probably hold off. If you have no desired outcome and want to casually date than your expectations will not be as high.

‘Think Like A Man' has proven itself to be a Box Office hit raking in $33Million in its opening week. In the movie they touch on the infamous 90 Day Rule. The 90 Day Rule basically says that a woman should make a man wait 90 days before having sex. I have done this and was extremely disappointed that I waited 3 months, got to know him and the sex was wack. I felt as if my time was wasted because realistically I wasn’t going to be in a relationship with someone who could not please me and he didn’t want to just be friends. So is waiting 90 days a smart move? On the flip side, if you give it up too quickly then you’re looked at as easy and gossiped about. This is where the double standard comes into play. A man sleeping around with several women will get a pat on his back from his boys whereas a woman enjoying her single life is gossiped about endlessly. Even more amazing is the guy who sleeps with such a woman and labels her a hoe the next day while he acted in the same manner as she did. So the question is…To Wait or Not To Wait?

Until Next Time,
Niccole