The title of my post is inspired by the classic whodini song. Everyone has friends, so asking how many of us have them is a dumb question, or is it?

What exactly is a friend? The dictionary defines a friend as a person whom one knows, likes and trusts. Seems simple enough but let's explore those three elements. To know someone is not as simple as meeting them or working with them. To know someone means you know what makes them happy, sad, mad etc. You know parts of their past and their aspirations for the future. To like someone means that despite their shortcomings you still enjoy the time that you spend with that person. The things that annoy you about that person you accept because you like them and enjoy being around them. Last but certainly not least, the most important part of a friendship is the trust factor. Can you trust this person with even the juiciest piece of gossip? Can you trust that this person will be there for you when you need them? Does this person lie? Knowing someone, liking someone and trusting them makes for a successful friendship. We have all had people come in and out of our lives that we thought were friends but were not, and it was probably because one of these elements were missing. So often people confuse friends and acquaintances. Most of the people I know are my acquaintances. Before considering someone my friend I ask myself would this person do for me what I would do for them?  If it's a simple yes than great but if I need to think about it then maybe this person is better off being just someone I say hi and bye to. I once had someone who I thought was my friend. She used to always comment on how much of a strong and independent woman I was and how she wished she could break away from her situation and be more like myself. Unfortunately her admiration turned into jealousy at which point she became my frenemy which is a dangerous person to have in your circle. 

I have been blessed to have great friends. I know a lot of people but I can count my true friends on my hand. They accept me for who and what I am and vice versa. Just because you grew up with someone or work with them everyday doesn't make them your friend. Make wise decisions and trust who you talk to because its a small world. 

Until next time 
Niccole